Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm having the same relationship problem right now. I know exactly what you feel. If you're strong enough to let him go, that is the best thing to do. We deserve more than how they're treating us. In my case, I keep on telling myself that I will be fine and all as day goes by. But I'm just not ready to let go coz I already made plans for the future with my boy and I love him so much so even if he's treating me like crap sometimes, I always end up forgiving him. Talk to your boyfriend. It helps, bigtime. I talked to my boyfriend last week about all of the problems I am encountering in him, he listened and right now everything is back to normal. I feel so inlove again.

Thank you so much for your reply, it really helps the part of me that still has hope, the part of me that remembers the good parts of our relationship. I’m really confused too because one part of me feels strong and able to let go, while the other side has also made plans for the future with him. Definitely super confusing haha. I’m trying to forgive and be understanding even though it’s hard to at the moment, so hopeful words are really encouraging.

Thanks for your advice and message! I hope things keep going well for you and your boy :)

nothingsbeenthesamesincenewyork asked: About problems with your boyfriend.

Are you really sure you're out of love? Maybe he acts that way because you've been busy over something or something has distracted you? Talk to him, it's the best way. I mean, maybe he's got problems. Guys don't tell you problems, you have to ask if anything's wrong. They don't want to feel needy, but they want to feel needed. They just can't talk about how they feel, but they need attention as much as girls do.

Now, if you really are out of love, talk to him, explain to him how you grew apart. But be open to what's he's going to say. Listen to each other.

If things really don't work out, the best thing to do is break up. It's really tough but you'll just end up hurting each other and ruin what you had together.

In love with him or not, you really care for him. I'm from the philippines, i wish i can call you and make you feel better.

Awe thank you so much for the reply. And your message helps just as much as a phone call would haha :)

I think I’m out of love because it’s been a couple months and I recognize the way I act isn’t the way I used to when I “loved” him. I even admit that sometimes the way I acted I didn’t like, and I think it was because I felt angry with myself for not feeling the same and frustrated that it was getting worse (the more things he did that hurt or upset me, the more I’d wonder why I was trying).

I talked to him a little about it the other day and since then he’s just been not talking to me, when I ask him why he says he feels weird (from what I talked to him about). He also is putting the onus all on me to chase him and try to fix everything but it’s really difficult because he can’t even meet me halfway. I understand he’s probably hurt but it’s like he won’t bother to budge to even meet me 1% which makes it really hard because I need support too. A part of me does want this to work and I just feel like the more he does this, the more he’s pushing that part away.

A break is definitely a good idea, so I think we might do that…and then get together and talk about things when emotions aren’t running as high.

Thank you for your advice and support, it really helps to get someone else’s perspective on this! :)

aisbakes asked: Don't take offense .. I'm just playing devil's advocate. But do you think he might be going through the same thing?

No worries haha.

Well for awhile I thought that was why we were growing apart…and that’s what I think contributed to why I started distancing myself from him, since he started to do things that hurt me more. But when I talked to him about how I was feeling he said he didn’t feel that way because he’d always felt the same about me.

There is a part of me that feels like his feelings for me are different just from the way he acts compared to the way he did before, but he’s adamant that he still feels the same.

can anyone give me some love advice?

i don’t know what to do…basically i feel like i’m out of love with my boyfriend and i think he knows that. his response to it is to act kind of like a jerk and try to make me “chase” him. and it’s really, really hard to do that when, well, you aren’t in love with that person anymore. part of me wants it to work but the majority of me doesn’t see this working. basically he wants me to bombard him with texts or gifts but when i do, he’s not there to respond or reciprocate. and when i call him out on it or tell him this is really hard on me he’s not there for me and just refuses to make nice or give me any support at all. and i already do need that support for me to convince myself he’s worthwhile and to keep trying.

i don’t know what to do :(

please help? message me